Bloom Where You Are

For some reason, I only have one or two roses that bloom every year at the same spot but I don’t know why. Happy to hear ideas from avid gardeners out there. My post however is thankfully not about my abysmal gardening skills. 

It took about four to five days after the bud of the rose above appeared for it to be in full bloom.

Really beautiful 😍😍😍😍 but it got me thinking about success. .

It only took a maximum of five days for this gorgeous rose to be in full bloom but how long has it been taking root? How long has the work that goes on beneath the surface been going on?

We all know there is no such thing as an overnight success but we sure wish in our case we would be the exception qualified for meteoric progression. Well I don’t know about you but I often find myself thinking where is the shortcut to the finish line.

Meteoric successes are an anomaly. Right now I can’t even think of one person who was an overnight success for often what we perceive to be sudden has been years in the making.

True success that lasts, whether it’s relationships, business, career, whatever – true success that lasts is line upon line, brick upon brick. It’s in the daily activities we do that further our goals.

You may feel like you are working very hard and you can’t see the blooming rose ( pun intended 😂😂).

Don’t give up. You are just taking root. As long as you have a clear vision, a plan to get you there and you are taking action consistently; you will bloom.

The truth is that the rose is the most beautiful part, the glory of the story. However, if it didn’t have a root, it would never appear. 

So here’s to taking root.

Thought of the Day

I came across this quote from Kenzo designer, Humberto Leon and I thought how true.

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I’ve found that if you want to succeed at anything in life, you need a good dose of desire and curiosity. Simply because you have to observe, learn and create.

Without the desire to be a success and curiosity, you won’t go on the prequisite learning path which leads to success.

Success can be a very lonely path but with bright eyes, keen to learn, and a questioning mind, you’ll get very far.

The Problem With The Rat Race ……

A few days ago, I came across this quote on Instagram by Lily Tomlin; allegedly I should add.

The problem with the rat race is that even if you win you’re still a rat.

I remember reading it and thinking, what an odd quote.

Yesterday I was presented with an opportunity that I had been waiting on for a VERY long time. However it would be at the expense of relationship that is dear to me. Even if the person wasn’t important to me, what I was being asked to do would have compromised my standards.

There are times when you weigh your options and you are genuinely confused as to what to do. This was not one of those times. The choices were clear. Say no thank you or be a rat. I chose not to be a rat. And hope I will always have the integrity required not be a rat.

For me, there is no value in success if it’s an ill-gotten gain. I want to succeed with my integrity intact.

Today, that quote makes a whole lot of sense. I will not be a rat!

The Limitations of Having a Vision

Last weekend I spent some time with a friend who talked about a dream of hers and how she was at the place where she was ready to go for it. It’s a very expensive dream to have so I can understand why it’s taken her a while to wrap her head around giving it a go. It’s also a dream that goes against the norm – not always easy to put your head above the parapet.

Having a vision means that you are boxed in. And as you get older, the more you junk stuff you are not interested in and so that vision continues to glare at you more and more.  And if like me you have a vision board on your wall, it stares at you before you go to bed and first thing when you wake up.

You can’t run away from who you are any more than you can can run away from the dreams gestating within you. You can put them on hold or dance around them, but they will always be alive within you waiting for an opportunity to flourish.

When we use the word dream, the tendency is for the mind to always go to some major adventure, project or accomplishment.  The tendency is to let other people’s accomplishments determine what we think a dream is.

A dream is whatsoever your heart desires. A better relationship with your spouse or a loved one, a peaceful home, a healthy diet, time for yourself in a busy world- a dream is whatever you imagine that is not yet a reality.

At some point you’ve got to admit to yourself that you are either not brave enough; hardworking enough; tough enough; committed enough; caring enough; whatever ……….. enough.  At some point you have to admit that just maybe, all along, you are the only one in the way of achieving your dream.

Death at the Starting Blocks

Most of us kill our dreams before they even leap from our minds into life.

I’m just not good enough.

It’s been done before.

What if I fail?

What if I succeed?

Who would believe me or buy from me?

I don’t know what to do.

I don’t have the skills.

So and so is better that me.

With so many people out there, I doubt that I would stand out.

What if, what if, what if, usually leads to I’m not going to bother doing it.

Don’t kill your dreams at the starting blocks. Give it a try. If you fail, you learn. If you succeed, wonderful!

The moment you start to plan out your dream and take little steps, you realise that it just might be possible. Then you put a little more effort into it and you start to doubt less and the what ifs dissipate and become when wills.

What If This Is As Good As It Gets?

This is the question posed by Jack Nicholson in the movie As Good As It Gets. I love that line in the movie and I often pose it to myself. What if ………. THIS …………is as good as it gets?

What if you don’t get that promotion?
What if you never get to meet that guy?
What if you never get married?
What if you don’t get that job?
What if after all that hard work the business fails?
What if you can’t have children?
What if you never have children?
What if your dream job doesn’t exist?
What if no one thinks you are good enough?
What if you can’t make it work?
What if it’s taking forever?
What if all your dreams never come true?

Will you spend your life being miserable? Is THIS as good as it gets?

There are a few responses, I guess, to the what ifs of life.

1. NO – I’m not even going to think about It, it’s going to happen by hook or by crook.
2. If it doesn’t happen I’ll die!
3. Well since it’s not going to happen I’m not even going to try.
4. It’s a possibility it won’t happen but so is the possibility that it may.

I’m sure there are a few more options but I’ll stop at four.

It’s somewhat arrogant to think that everything you ever hope for and desire will happen to you. There is optimism and there is arrogance because to think that it will always happen, the way you want it to, is to suppose that you are somewhat more special than the others for whom it does not occur. After all, we are all special.

In the words of Forrest Gump, “life is not a box of chocolates”. When life gives us lemons we just have to make – you guessed it, another quote – lemonade.

You could keep hope alive, give up, pray, work harder, keep going, get upset, accept the situation for what it is – there are a number of ways to handle the what ifs. Whatever the outcome or our stance, you and I have got to figure a way to be happy or at least content, irrespective of our what ifs.

That’s a Lot of Money

I think every parent prays earnestly for the day their child (or children) utters these words. Like most parents, I sometimes, foolishly I’ll admit, take my children along with me shopping. This is nothing more than utter foolishness but you can’t help it sometimes. Short of leaving them in the car unattended, there are sometimes no option.

I have always found it amazing that children don’t have any concept of costs or more importantly, mounting costs. This alone, is the sole reason why I back the government’s drive to introduce mathematics earlier in pre-school education.

I’ll never understand how we can spend an entire day out, have bought some things for them along the way, but still at every successive stop, they still ask for something. The have absolutely no concept of the value of money – it just doesn’t seem to mean anything. One of the funniest comments they’ve made when I say no, is “just put your card in the machine and it’ll give you more money”. If only! I would love to find that cash machine as well. ​

I don’t want to keep using the words “because we can’t afford it or I don’t have the money” all the time and leave an imprint of perpetual lack in their childhood. 🙂 I definitely say no, but it’s getting them to appreciate why they can’t have everything they want that’s the key.

To help with this, I’ve decided that it’s time to start giving them some nominal amount of pocket money so we can teach them about the concepts of cost, savings, choice and the value of a limited budget. It’s vital, especially if they are going to grow up and make wise decisions about money.

So it was with great delight when the other day I was looking at Take That concert tickets for three which cost circa £283. When I told them, they both screamed, “that’s a lot of money. Why would anyone pay that?”
We are indeed making progress. Off to buy piggy banks now.