The Number One Back to School Essential

It’s back to school time for most children round the world. There will have been the buying of equipment, sourcing of after-school activities or care, the shuffling from here to there. Our minds are preoccupied with not only getting them ready for school but sometimes worry about how they will get on.

It’s a new school for my kids as well as three nephews and two nieces. There is a lot to process. There might be anxiety about work load for some, the fear of exams for others, the will-they-make-friends concern, etc. There is more than enough to keep us all preoccupied.

Through it all though, let’s not forget an essential ingredient that every parent must give their child – encouragement.

We may never understand the pressure kids are under today but we can guess. The need for acceptance, the need to do their best, the waiting to see if they were selected for a sports team or school play, the desire not to stand out, the pressure of exams. Add to that the proliferation of social media amongst them, children today have all sorts of pressures thrust upon them that we’ll never fully understand.

So the one thing I aim to do is to let my children know that their best is good enough. That they can do anything they set their mind on. And when they can’t, it’s OK. They need that safe place where they always have a cheerleader.  And it can get very corny in our home with my daughter getting out her pompoms to cheer her brother on, or me making positive declarations over my kids. My aim is to pump them up so much with confidence that no one on the outside can ever penetrate their veneer with arrows of negativity or condescension.

Keeping their morale up is more important than homework and all the other stuff. Sorry if you are a teacher reading this and you disagree. But a child that already feels he or she is losing is hardly going to feel able in your class.

So as parents, aunties, uncles, friends and the entire village it takes to raise a child, be the greatest cheerleader for every child in your life. Heaven knows they need it.

School Run Positivity

Has anyone ever tried positive thinking in coping with the school run? I’m giving it a go today and the rest of the week as it’s the first week back at school.

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Let’s see if it works or if I return to my soliloquy in B flat on my hatred of the school run.

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Overcoming School Run Trauma

Have I mentioned previously that I hate, with a capital H, the school run? Well I do! I really HATE the pressure it puts on me to get to the school gate at a certain time. The pressure to get to school on time so I’m not late for work. I hate that it turns me into the Wicked Witch of the West as I try to get my children to be compliant first thing in the morning.

As the new school year is upon us, I thought it would be good for me to revisit some of tips that have helped me alleviate the school run trauma.

  1. Iron and lay Out everything the night before – laptop, snacks, clothes, shoes and even underwear. The number of times that I have regretted leaving it till the morning is unforgivable. It’s a favour to myself and my kids to ensure we are prepared the night before.
  2. Wake up and have my shower before my children. If I am ready before them, I feel better prepared to handle their impending slowness in the morning.
  3. Eat breakfast. It puts my brain in gear and gives me fuel for the day.
  4. As they are old enough, let them make their own breakfast. If yours don’t know how to, teach them to make something simple!
  5. Give the children breakfast that can be eaten in the car or on the bus. 🙂 Anything that can be easily packed and taken along with us if we happen to be running late.
  6. As soon as they are home from school, give them a light snack and then do homework first before anything else.
  7. On evenings that they have after school activities, make sure dinner is prepped beforehand and simple.
  8. Don’t forget to check their school bags for notes and homework.
  9. Eat dinner early.
  10. Get them to bed early (not a guarantee that they’ll sleep) and remember to wake them up at the same time everyday so their body clock gets used to the routine.
  11. If you have young kids that share a room, remember to split them up at bedtime otherwise they’ll stay up talking till 11pm.
  12. Go to bed early. No late nights. Makes me cranky in the morning.

      School Run Fail

      So we’ve had two days of school and already I’ve been unaware of an Easter journal assignment due on the first day back; we’ve left ‘our’ sports kit at home but we managed to take ‘our’  sports shoes with us so that’s alright then (I use we but it wasn’t me really); and I (this was all me) forgot to replace lost swimming trunks so for today’s lesson my son might have to go skinny dipping.

      So yep! It’s all going well. Make me feel better by sharing any stories of commiseration.

      Give Me Strength 

      Every night I iron school clothes for the next day.

      Every night I put the clothes on the same spot, on the bed in the spare room. 

      Every morning I tell my children where the clothes are.

      YET, I am still asked, “mummy where are my clothes?”

      Today, I refused to answer that question for fear that it might incriminate me in future crimes against my children.

      Give me strength!!!!

      I Will Not Mourn The Easter Holidays

      I will not mourn the Easter holidays.
      I will not mourn the days of laying in bed and not caring about what to do next.
      I will not mourn the fewer cars in the morning on my way to and from work.
      I will not mourn not having to be at the school gate at 8.45am daily.
      I will not mourn the time spent with my children living in the moment.
      I will not mourn the fun we had and getting to know them a bit better.
      I will not mourn the lack of routine.
      I will not mourn the letting them get on with whatever they want.
      I will not mourn the needless getting to bed on time.
      I will not mourn the hiatus from the dreaded school run.
      NO! I will not mourn.
      I will not cry.
      I will not moan.
      I will not stress.
      I will not caress the notion of early morning rest.
      I will just take my pill like the good girl I am.
      Finding comfort in the knowledge that many join me this week on this journey.
      Wondering how it flew by so quickly.
      Longing fervently for the next holiday.
      No. I will not mourn.

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