It’s back to school time for most children round the world. There will have been the buying of equipment, sourcing of after-school activities or care, the shuffling from here to there. Our minds are preoccupied with not only getting them ready for school but sometimes worry about how they will get on.
It’s a new school for my kids as well as three nephews and two nieces. There is a lot to process. There might be anxiety about work load for some, the fear of exams for others, the will-they-make-friends concern, etc. There is more than enough to keep us all preoccupied.
Through it all though, let’s not forget an essential ingredient that every parent must give their child – encouragement.
We may never understand the pressure kids are under today but we can guess. The need for acceptance, the need to do their best, the waiting to see if they were selected for a sports team or school play, the desire not to stand out, the pressure of exams. Add to that the proliferation of social media amongst them, children today have all sorts of pressures thrust upon them that we’ll never fully understand.
So the one thing I aim to do is to let my children know that their best is good enough. That they can do anything they set their mind on. And when they can’t, it’s OK. They need that safe place where they always have a cheerleader. And it can get very corny in our home with my daughter getting out her pompoms to cheer her brother on, or me making positive declarations over my kids. My aim is to pump them up so much with confidence that no one on the outside can ever penetrate their veneer with arrows of negativity or condescension.
Keeping their morale up is more important than homework and all the other stuff. Sorry if you are a teacher reading this and you disagree. But a child that already feels he or she is losing is hardly going to feel able in your class.
So as parents, aunties, uncles, friends and the entire village it takes to raise a child, be the greatest cheerleader for every child in your life. Heaven knows they need it.
I used to work with a man who came to work everyday wearing a look of boredom. It was hung permanently on his face. It would take him ten times as long to finish a task. He didn’t have any enthusiasm whatsoever other than to moan about what wasn’t working. He wasn’t motivated to find any solutions to challenges. He wasn’t moved by any new developments. Yet, everyday he came to work. He showed up but he wasn’t there.
I don’t want to be that guy. Neither should you.
Find your passion and do more and more of it until you can do it all the time.
I’m discovering so much more than ever that friends are important. Scratch that – people who genuinely have your best interest at heart are important. We need to surround ourselves with such people. We may never know when their counsel or strength may be needed but one thing’s for sure. When you are down they will be there to lift you up. When you are weak, they will be your strength. When you are sad, they will bring laughter to your lips. And when you don’t feel like laughing, they’ll give you a hug. That’s what true friends are there for.
Make sure you are surrounded by such people. For without them we are alone.
I’ve been running my Vision Board workshops for just under three months now and it’s been tough yet fulfilling.
I guess starting any new venture can be a hard slug and there are times when you wonder if it’s worth it; especially when it seems you are getting no where really fast. Yes, I’m a tad impatient. 😊😊
I do always find it quite fortuitous that whenever I have those moments, someone sends me a review or a note to say how this workshop has been instrumental in shaping their life. That is simply humbling, encouraging, amazing and all those sort of words you could think of. 😆😆😆
Yesterday, I woke up to a review by a blogger who attended the very first workshop; the one I fondly refer to as the just-do-it-afraid-workshop. Such moments are a signpost for me and motivate me to work even harder. It’s even more special because it was unsolicited and unexpected. I just love that people’s lives are changing and I’m a part of that story. 🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏
Here’s the review by What Mummy Wore. A little different but wonderful all the same. Enjoy!