Thought of the Day

No one ever changed a situation through moaning.
-RWW

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Breakfast in Bed

I’m taking advantage of the half-term and having a lie-in today. My daughter walks in and asks what she can have for breakfast. I know she’s after my pancakes.  

I do make delicious pancakes πŸ™‚

However, I say nothing and give her some other options. As she reluctantly walks out of the room, my husband says slyly, “why don’t you get up and make pancakes”. He gets a side eye.

However, if I’ve learnt anything about my daughter over her seven years of existence, it’s that she has bionic ears. Or at least always looks for opportunities to negotiate with you. A few minutes later, she walks in to hug me and says, “mummy why don’t you make pancakes?” My husband smirks in the corner.

So I say, “no! I want breakfast in bed!” Then my husband says, “that’s no problem, you make the pancakes and we’ll bring it to you in bed”. Now my daughter is jumping and saying “yes, we will!”

Somehow I think I’m being cheated. I better get my own breakfast in bed!

In Praise Of The Unromantic Husband

When I got married, I remember feeling intense pressure for my marriage to mirror that of others around me; particularly in the area of romance.

However as God would have it, my husband isn’t really romantic. He has his moments but I wouldn’t say it’s his natural habitat. There are many things that my husband doesn’t do that I wish he would do. He’s just not romantic and so he doesn’t say I love you every second of the day. He doesn’t plan weekends away. He doesn’t see the point of eating out in a fancy restaurant. There are many things I really really wish he would do. I kind of think, they would make my life richer.  Like diamonds and pearls……… but my life would be so so empty without him.

He doesn’t say I love you with his lips but he burns it into my soul with his eyes. And when he gives me that look, I feel like there is no one else on the face of the earth but us. I become a shy little teenager and can’t stop the smile that splays across my face. Under the gaze of that look, he speaks a million and one things that words could never express. And my heart is full.

So after ten years of marriage, I’ve learnt not to wish for so many things in a way that destroys the love we do have. I have learnt to appreciate what he does do. Like the fact that he wants the absolute best for me and is my greatest cheerleader. Like the fact that he doesn’t demand that I alter myself or my STRONG opinions. Like the fact that he wants me to be happy often at great expense to himself. The fact that he remembers what my favourite chocolate is and randomly surprises me with it. The fact that he is a content being, never dragging us from pillar to post in search of nirvana.

So yeah, I don’t get the romantic dinners and mushy words and the diamonds I constantly nag him about, but I’ve got a really great man too.

Happy 10th wedding anniversary darling. I love you more!

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Tin Can Marriage

Apparently, the traditional gift for 10 years is tin. I’ve always wondered why tin. Like it’s such a cheap material., Why not platinum. LOL

According toΒ About.Com; the pliability of tin and aluminum is a symbol of how a successful marriage needs to be flexible and durable and how it can be bent without being broken.

I like that. I won’t be longing for platinum any longer. She says in jest!

-RWW

Joke of the Day

My husband and I were walking past a jewellery shop and I casually mentioned that he’s meant to get me an eternity ring for our tenth anniversary in August. His retort was “what do I get for ten years of imprisonment?”
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To which he got a shove.

How My Love For John Legend Began

It all started when I met my husband. There was an independent record shop on Edgware road in London (sadly it has since closed down). My husband passed this shop on his way to work daily and subsequently visited the shop daily. He would buy new indie CD’s that were not mainstream yet – the shop owner was like the Jools Holland of record shops. He always knew what to look out for and had a brilliant ear for music. So in 2003 my husband was introduced to a man called John Legend and by default I was introduced to him. I’ll be honest, I didn’t like the music all that much but he had me at Ordinary people. So I became a John Legend fan circa 2003/4. His music has a special place in my heart because it was the soundtrack to the year we met. Can you hear the violin strings?

On our honeymoon, we went to New Orleans, and discovered that we just missed his concert; literally by hours. We were so gutted. And for the past nine years, I’ve been waiting for John Legend to come to the UK. Last year I put him on my bucket list and decided that I would plan a trip to the States if necessary to see him in concert. ​I constantly barraged his Facebook page to ask when he was coming to the UK, but nothing. Then it happened, May 2014, an announcement that he would be coming.

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I screamed. Called my husband – and that was my first mistake – and, regrettably, he didn’t seem so keen to go. May begat June, then begat July, then begat August and then begat September and I watched John Legend come and go. I almost went to Oslo but we had no options for childcare. By the time he, my husband that is, decided he wanted to go, the tickets were fewer and so expensive. I sadly decided to let it go aka Frozen style not without telling my husband that it was HIS fault.

​Just on an aside. this isn’t the first time this sort of this has happened whereby I’ve lost out because I wanted to go with my husband. There was the Olympics, Michael Jackson (OK he passed away), the Queen’s Centenary street party (OK it eventually rained all day) and now this. After 9 years of marriage you would think I would have learned to just do my own thing, but nooooo. I have to be all romantic and lovey dovey, two-peas-in-a-pod-kind-of-person. Well enough! I used to go to the theatre and cinema on my own. If I did it then, I can do it now. So I have calmly informed him that next time I’ll book two tickets and if he can’t make it I’ll take a friend. To which he wisely agreed was for the best. πŸ™‚

Back to my story. So you can imagine my excitement when I got a text from O2 informing me that John Legend would be back next year and the tickets would be sold that morning. Did I wait? No. Did I consult my husband first? Heck NO! I went on-line and bought the tickets and THEN told
him. And so in June 2015, John Legend and I will finally be in the same room together, albeit with my husband and 17,000+ other people. Can’t wait. πŸ™‚

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PS I just did a similar thing with tickets to see Julia Donaldson’s Stickman at the theatre. Seems I’ve discovered it pays to walk alone – sometimes

How To Have a Fight-Free Marriage

Don’t talk!

Seriously, don’t talk at all. It’s when you start to talk that misunderstandings happen. People hear things that they don’t want to hear and a fight brews. In fact, the best thins is not to express an opinion either and you will be fight free.

Of course your relationship will not grow and you’ll never really get to know each other but at least there will be peace in your home – no squabbles about who left the kitchen cupboard door open again, why the dishes aren’t washed immediately and why treat night is essential ;)- is that just us?

Taking two individuals from two different backgrounds, upbringings and values (even when you share values they are upheld to different degrees) and asking them to live together – is a recipe for disaster. Even my sisters and I who grow up together disagree, how much more some individual from Mars.

Communication can unravel or glue a relationship together. And as people grow in their relationships, it’s vital to learn what to say and what not to say. When to say it is also crucial.

What’s fundamental to the success of the relationship and what you can ignore is essentially the litmus test for what to communicate. I think we can live with loo seats being up and anyway who said that was the right way (ducks and hides)

Some of the ‘discussions’ my husband and haven’t always ended with mutual agreement. In fact sometimes I’m left thinking the issue was a lost. Sometimes the only agreement we can reach is that we both disagree but miraculously the next day we understand each other better and we’ve grown together. And that’s down to communication – because despite it all, we’ve listened to each other.

Whenever a couple tells me they never argue I think naah you simply don’t communicate. Live a little – fight, grow and learn.

I Want To Get Married Again

This song makes me want to have a wedding again just for the sake of dancing to it.

Thinking Out Loud
When your legs don’t work like they used to before
And I can’t sweep you off of your feet
Will your mouth still remember the taste of my love
Will your eyes still smile from your cheeks
And darling I will be loving you ’til we’re 70
And baby my heart could still fall as hard at 23
And I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe just the touch of a hand
Oh me I fall in love with you every single day
And I just wanna tell you I am

So honey now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Place your head on my beating heart
I’m thinking out loud
Maybe we found love right where we are

When my hair’s all but gone and my memory fades
And the crowds don’t remember my name
When my hands don’t play the strings the same way, mm
I know you will still love me the same
‘Cause honey your soul can never grow old, it’s evergreen
Baby your smile’s forever in my mind and memory
I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe it’s all part of a plan
I just keep on making the same mistakes
Hoping that you’ll understand

But baby now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Place your head on my beating heart
I’m thinking out loud
That maybe we found love right where we are, oh
(Ah la la, la la la, la la la, la la la la)

So baby now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Oh darling, place your head on my beating heart
I’m thinking out loud
That maybe we found love right where we are
Oh maybe we found love right where we are
And we found love right where we are

Songwriters
AMY WADGE, ED SHEERAN
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Lyrics Β© Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC