Thank You

When I started this blog, my primary aim was to get into the habit of writing regularly. I also wanted to create create a space to encourage women to live their own lives with authenticity.

I’ve been amazed by the comments, likes, emails, follows, texts and messages from people I know and total strangers; telling me about the encouragement my blog provides.

Two messages stand out and they touch me in different. The first one is from a lady who said one of my blog posts led her to go on a course she had been putting off for a while. The second from someone who had always been too sacred to bake and finally plucked up the courage to do so – and it turned out alright. The first message was quite a dramatic change compared to the second but they both have one underlying theme – being bold enough to do the things you want to do. To be a part of your story is a priceless experience and I thank you all for letting me into your lives and your mail boxes. 🙂

I am especially grateful to all the wonderful women who shared their stories with me this year. It’s been a humbling and great learning experience for me. Catch up with all their wonderful stories here.

2015 women

 

I hope you have found them inspiring as well and I look forward to sharing more stories with you in 2016 and running some live events too.

I mustn’t forget all my male followers and the kind and thoughtful messages I’ve received from you too. 🙂

Wishing you all a truly wonderful New Year and may divine blessings attend your way.

God bless.

 

Tomi

A Simplified Christmas

I wrote this post this last year and it has served as a useful reminder. If last year was simplified, this year will be simplified to the max! Enjoy!

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It’s been a long and busy year. And I am really looking forward to two weeks off work and just simply relaxing. Today is my last day at work this year and I’m pumped – as my son would say. 🙂

So this year, as I’m determined to have a simple Christmas, we did all Christmas presents shopping online, in fact at the same store. Anything that required veering into other stores has been relegated to a nice-to-have list for 2015. Plus we’ve had a chat about being grateful for whatever you get. So I’m optimistic about no I-didn’t-get-the-present-I-wanted drama. 😂😂😂😂😂 I crack myself up. I’ll let you know if that worked out. (update, it did!)

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Still hidden away to avoid hypertension in young children

The other thing that always goes off kilter at Christmas is my food shopping habit. I’ve found that I shop like there’s been a hurricane warning and my family is going into a bunker for two weeks; rather than for one day which is essentially how long the shops will be closed for. So this year I was determined not to do that and I’ve succeeded. I did my food shopping online too so I wouldn’t be distracted by great offers in the stores. I have a few items left but I’ve made a list and I’m sticking to it when I hit the grocery shop shortly.

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The cookbooks begat the shopping list

I like – scratch that – I love cooking and Christmas is usually the time that I experiment with new recipes, but that’s another stressful thing and this year I’m not doing stress at Christmas. So I’ve stuck to what we all like and is tried and tested. For the first time ever, I won’t be peeling potatoes. I’m a food snob like that I know but in the name of a stress-free Christmas we are getting frozen potatoes 🙈🙈🙈 – a suggestion made by my husband which no doubt takes him off potatoes peeling duty. However, I got his point. If you want a stress-free meal then take the stress away. I’m still processing that one though. I might just nip out and get potatoes in the morning and so I can make my gorgeous hassleback potatoes.

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Hassleback potatoes. The best way to do them!

My family and I also made a pact not to get presents for one another until the New Year which is just perfect and I can avoid the Christmas madness out there. I have a super organised friend whose Christmas shopping is usually done by October. Alas, I have not been blessed with such genes so I’m very happy with this unanimous decision.

Another thing that adds to my stress is baking a Christmas cake for church. Well I’ve scrapped that this year. And will do something in the New Year when I’m chilled. Although it’s sounding like my New Year is getting pretty full already. Eek!

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Merry Christmas

Lastly, I cancelled my hair appointment just because the last thing I feel like doing right now is spending a couple of hours in a hair salon under a dryer when I could be home with my feet up. Well-being before beauty for me. My hair will just have to do as it is for one day.

So here’s to a truly simplified Christmas day and holiday. 🍸

5 Days to the Vision Board Workshop

Over the past weekend, I spent some time with a lady who was somewhat distressed. She’s spent a good deal of time not knowing what she wanted to do with her life.

She had quit her job after having three kids and that job meant a great deal to her. Now her kids are older, she’s lost a sense of who she is and what she wants to do with her life. She keeps wavering between further education, re-training, setting up a new business, staying at home and then further education again.

What’s surprising is that she has actually started a new business in this time. And is contributing to her family but here is the thing – she isn’t fulfilled; she wants more but she doesn’t know what it is.

I spoke to her about the Vision Board party I held about this time last year. Listening to myself speaking to her I realised that I was sincerely passionate, almost evangelistic, about this tool.

I am honest enough to say that it’s not the panacea for all things. However, if you are a visual person and truly in search of clarity – I have no other word for it- this works. If used rightly, it’s an immense tool for change.

I’ve still got a few tickets left for anyone who’d like to give it a go.
Eventbrite - Vision Board & Goal Setting Workshop

Children Will Never Cease to Amaze Me

To my shock and horror, this morning as we were about to leave for school, I found out that my son had left his entire school bag at school. I was flummoxed, confused, bewildered, speechless and livid.

I just couldn’t understand why he would take out his homework and jumper and leave the bag in school. There has to be a logical reason. My brain just can’t process this.

Several times I asked, are you ready for school? “Yes mummy”. Have you packed your things? “Yes mummy”.  At no point did it occur to him to mention that “oh, I left my bag at school”.

I just will never ever understand. I’ve long accepted that children are wired to stretch you to your limit and then re-stretch you all over again the next day and the next and the next and the next.

Naturally, we ended up being late for school because I just couldn’t get over the fact that the bag was not at home so I went looking round obvious places. It really was left at school! Shocking!

Having dropped them off and  calmed down, I realised that in the process our morning drama that I, the mother, the self-righteous one who always gets it right, who never forgets anything, who is perfect in all her ways; left my bag at home.