She may be the reason I survive
The why and wherefore I’m alive
The one I’ll care for through the rough and ready years
Me, I’ll take her laughter and her tears
And make them all my souvenirs
For where she goes I’ve got to be
The meaning of my life is she
She… Oh, she
Songwriters: CHARLES AZNAOUR, HERBERT KRETZMER
She lyrics © T.R.O. INC.
Anyone who wants to succeed at anything, from parenting to being an entrepreneur, must be willing to travel through life observing how others succeed.
I’m taking advantage of the half-term and having a lie-in today. My daughter walks in and asks what she can have for breakfast. I know she’s after my pancakes.
However, I say nothing and give her some other options. As she reluctantly walks out of the room, my husband says slyly, “why don’t you get up and make pancakes”. He gets a side eye.
However, if I’ve learnt anything about my daughter over her seven years of existence, it’s that she has bionic ears. Or at least always looks for opportunities to negotiate with you. A few minutes later, she walks in to hug me and says, “mummy why don’t you make pancakes?” My husband smirks in the corner.
So I say, “no! I want breakfast in bed!” Then my husband says, “that’s no problem, you make the pancakes and we’ll bring it to you in bed”. Now my daughter is jumping and saying “yes, we will!”
Somehow I think I’m being cheated. I better get my own breakfast in bed!
It’s been a while since I’ve a mid-week kick post. I woke up this morning with a quote from the Katie Piper session I attended at Stylist Live.
We are all living someone else’s wish list
She talked about her journey as an acid burn survivor and how when she gets low, understandable so, she remembers the patients of her surgeon in India, who don’t have free health care or who after recovery have to go back and live with their attacker, usually a husband or relative. Perspective!
It’s so easy in discontent or low times to forget that there’s always someone worse off who is praying for our circumstance.
Maybe today is a day to be grateful for what we do have.
This morning during the school run, my son asked what the word priceless meant.
And I reply, “it means you can’t put a price on it; it’s too valuable or very expensive”. “Just like you two”, I added. “There is no amount of money in the world that would ever make me give you away”. My son responds with a gushy awww and a huge grin across his face.
Then I said, “I’ll give you away for free instead!”. Mwauahahahahahahahaha!.
Yeah yeah yeah, I’m a big for nothing mother.
I love them really!
Yesterday, my sister and I attended the girl-fest that was Stylist live. I can only describe it as a celebration of womanhood in all her diverse forms. Starting on the 15th of October and ending yesterday, it was four days of fashion, learnng, inspirational talks, food, beauty, exhibitors, books …….. amidst a sea of women.
If you live or work in London, Stylist magazine should be familiar to you. If not, where have you been?????? I remember taking detours just to get a copy from the station when I lived in London. Stylist knows their readership well – women who work but also want to nurture a passion and possibly grow that passion into a business. And I guess this was the motive for launching Stylist Live – everything you would get in their magazine , but in real life.
So naturally, you know before you get there you are going to get fab products, a foodie area, fashion and how-to sessions. If you’ve been following my blog, you’ll know the how-to-sessions were my motivation for signing up – aptly called the Learning Labs. And lastly, for a little fee, you could attend a session on the Stylist Inspires Stage, to hear speakers such as Lorraine Pascale, Davina McCall, Caitlin Moran, Nigella Lawson and Katie Piper. And did I mention I won the tickets in a competition? Whoop whoop! 🙂
My first stop was the catwalk. I’d never been to one before so it was great to have front row seats to view the autumn winter tends. I’m a bit sceptical about the return of the 80s trend is but you’ll be glad to hear that there are no shoulder pads, although sequins are going to be very much alive.
The Learning Lab I attended was by The Cambridge Satchel Company founder, Julie Deane OBE on How to Start a Fashion Business. An amazing and quietly inspirational bold woman who started a million pound company from her kitchen table. Her talk was probably the best business seminar I’ve ever attended purely for her refreshingly simple and honest approach. It wasn’t filled with platitudes and business cliches. It was from a view point of how to start small, create a brand and keep it simple. Utterly inspirational.
Sadly, I wasn’t able to get into the Learning Lab on How to Write your First Novel as it was over subscribed. A bit gutting but the plus side is that I got to spend more time with my sister.
I’m on the left in case you are wondering. 😉
Our final session of the day was at the Stylist Inspires Stage with Katie Piper, who survived rape and a viscous acid attack in 2008. I sort of approached her session from an I-already-know-your-story point of view and was hoping it would be inspiring. However, nothing could have prepared me for the depth of suffering this woman endured, overcame and lived through. She epitomised the strength of the human spirit. Her session was challenging , very challenging just because it confronted you with the insatiable search for the superficial or ephemeral vs what is truly lasting. My take home quote from her session was,
Humans can survive three weeks without food, three days without water, three minutes without oxygen but we cannot survive without hope.
It’s rare to attend an inspirational talk where people aren’t clamouring over the mic to ask questions. There were only two questions from an audience of over 200 women. I think it was because -perhaps – when you meet a genuine article, words are few. It was simply prudent to listen.
As an inaugural event, it accomplished it’s goal – to inspire women. If I’m honest, because I’d seen a few moans on social media I was better prepared for what to expect. There were definitely a few teething problems which I’m sure the organisers will take on board. However, I would go again next year and take my daughter with me.
A huge well done to the team at Stylist magazine and thank you again for the tickets!
Life is truly what you make of it. You can let it pass you by or you can do something about it.
Don’t spend your time living someone else’s dream, live your own
It’s that time of the year when I start to look at the things I wanted to accomplish in the year and analyse the successes and where things might have gone pear shaped.
Then I received an email from a charity I support asking for volunteers to run the London Marathon 2016. I’m thinking about it. Really thinking about it. Primarily because for several years I have always had ‘run the London Marathon’ on my list of things to do. Never mind that I have never ever even tried to apply talk less of run it; yet it remained on my list – probably since my mid-twenties.
I do remember how I came to the decision to put it on my list. It was after watching The London Marathon on T.V for the first time in 1997. I was enthralled, and overwhelmed, by the determination and accomplishment of the runners as well as some of the amazing stories fuelling their motivation. I thought to myself, “I’ve got to do this”.
After receiving that email, I thought this was the perfect opportunity to do this. I can finally accomplish my dream. However, I was hesitant. So I asked myself, as you do, if I really did want to run the London Marathon or was it just an interesting thing to do – a list filler?
In my short time on earth, I’ve learnt a few things:
- A goal without action is nothing more than a wish
- Writing down a goal is pointless if you haven’t made a decision to do it
- Counting the cost of a goal before committing to it aids decision making
- Feel free to release yourself from achieving this goal if the actions from points 1-3 don’t engender you to the goal.
There might be some things on that list that you can simply cross off before 2015 rings to an end. You are never going to achieve them simply because they aren’t what you really want. Maybe you saw others achieving it and thought it might be a good idea. Perhaps you just thought it would be a cool thing to do. However sincerely you thought you wanted to; actions speak louder than words.
We all know the things we really want, what we really really want. (See what I did there? 🙂 ) Nothing stops us from committing to those things and seeing them through. No one has to make us do them. Perhaps it’s time to release ourselves from achieving certain things that just aren’t meant for us. Permit ourselves to break free from the shackles of pseudo failure. Those goals don’t belong to us.
However, if the opposite happens. If you feel yourself aching to commit to something on that list, then there it is. That’s your goal. Hang on to it and pursue it.
And if you really really really REALLY want to do it, remember point 1 above though, no action = a wish list.