An Extraordinary Adventure

When I created my Vision Board at the start of the year, I encouraged my children to make one as well. My daughter placed at the very top of hers, ‘an extraordinary adventure’.

We are not yet sure what that means but it involves travelling and outdoorsy stuff from what I’ve gleaned so far. To date we’ve only got as far as Chessington and going on a roller coaster. 

Today they have been driving me up the wall in the house so I chased them out to the garden with a ball my son won at a fair yesterday.

After about ten minutes, my daughter runs back into the house because she saw a fly.

Really?????? She’s not going to get very far is she if flies stop her from having fun. *deadpan face*  So much for an extraordinary adventure *side eye*.

I chased her back outside of course. No fly is going to get in the way of my peace.

Song of the Day

This here is the goal! Thanks Mary J.

Let it go……
Can’t let this thing called love get away from you
Feel free right now, going do what you want to do
Can’t let nobody take it away, from you, from me, from we
No time for moping around, are you kidding?
And no time for negative vibes, cause I’m winning
It’s been a long week, I put in my hardest
Gonna live my life, feels so good to get it right

So I like what I see when I’m looking at me
When I’m walking past the mirror
No stress through the night, at a time in my life
Ain’t worried about if you feel it
Got my head on straight, I got my mind right
I aint gonna let you kill it
You see I wouldn’t change my life, my life’s just…..

Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Just fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
You see I wouldn’t change my life, my life’s just fine

*Writer(s): Mary J. Blige, Omar Phillips, Terius Nash, Phalon Alexander, Christopher A. Stewart

Create Experiences With Your Children

There’s a lot of pressure to do and be what you can’t afford in order to make your kids happy, particularly over the school holidays. Eight to ten weeks with children off school can prove to be very costly.

I’ve discovered that creating experiences lasts a lot longer in the memories of my children and does not require a lot of money. Just my time and listening to my kids.

I say listen because half the things we spend money on for our children is of little interest to them. I am regularly astounded by the number of things we’ve done that they can’t remember.

I have learnt that children like to run around and hang out with their parents. If you can do that, 90% of the job is done. Anything else is a bonus.

On one of the few sunny days we’ve had this summer, I was busy searching for activities to do and they all cost a lot of money. My kids just wanted to go out in the sun and run around. They’ll make very cheap dates 🙂

We proceeded to the South Bank; took selfies by London Eye, saw the Houses of Parliament and Big Ben; watched some Ghanaian gymnastics and a lady with gigantic bubble wands then they ran around in the play ground.

Two very satisfied kids. It cost very little and they had maximum satisfaction.

Experiences are highly valued by children and they place a high premium on quality time with parents. 

10 things guaranteed to bring maximum satisfaction to my children:

  1. Tickling
  2. Playing games in the garden
  3. Arts and craft of their choice
  4. Board games
  5. Movie hour with home made popcorn
  6. Going for a walk
  7. Picking blackberries in our garden
  8. Cooking together and letting them help
  9. Talking about our day at bedtime
  10. Reading to them

In Praise Of The Unromantic Husband

When I got married, I remember feeling intense pressure for my marriage to mirror that of others around me; particularly in the area of romance.

However as God would have it, my husband isn’t really romantic. He has his moments but I wouldn’t say it’s his natural habitat. There are many things that my husband doesn’t do that I wish he would do. He’s just not romantic and so he doesn’t say I love you every second of the day. He doesn’t plan weekends away. He doesn’t see the point of eating out in a fancy restaurant. There are many things I really really wish he would do. I kind of think, they would make my life richer.  Like diamonds and pearls……… but my life would be so so empty without him.

He doesn’t say I love you with his lips but he burns it into my soul with his eyes. And when he gives me that look, I feel like there is no one else on the face of the earth but us. I become a shy little teenager and can’t stop the smile that splays across my face. Under the gaze of that look, he speaks a million and one things that words could never express. And my heart is full.

So after ten years of marriage, I’ve learnt not to wish for so many things in a way that destroys the love we do have. I have learnt to appreciate what he does do. Like the fact that he wants the absolute best for me and is my greatest cheerleader. Like the fact that he doesn’t demand that I alter myself or my STRONG opinions. Like the fact that he wants me to be happy often at great expense to himself. The fact that he remembers what my favourite chocolate is and randomly surprises me with it. The fact that he is a content being, never dragging us from pillar to post in search of nirvana.

So yeah, I don’t get the romantic dinners and mushy words and the diamonds I constantly nag him about, but I’ve got a really great man too.

Happy 10th wedding anniversary darling. I love you more!


Tin Can Marriage

Apparently, the traditional gift for 10 years is tin. I’ve always wondered why tin. Like it’s such a cheap material., Why not platinum. LOL

According to About.Com; the pliability of tin and aluminum is a symbol of how a successful marriage needs to be flexible and durable and how it can be bent without being broken.

I like that. I won’t be longing for platinum any longer. She says in jest!


We Think We Have Time

So we hold that grudge one more day.

We think we have time;

And don’t take the time to invest in our relationships.

We think we have time;

So we procrastinate one day longer.

We think we have time;

So we don’t say I love you anymore.

We think we have time;

We don’t take the time to pray.

We think we have time;

So we let regret spend another day.

We think we have time;

We waste it longing instead of doing.

We think we have time;

So we remain too scared to make the first move.

We think we have time;

We stay angry instead of making up.

We think we have time;

So fear takes the reigns and dreams remain bottled up.

We think we have time;

But then he died;

We think we have time;

Until time is simply no more.

Then we will know we had all the time life allocated to us.