Redefining Wonder Woman Series 8: Female Football Coach

It seems befitting that I should bring to you the story of Natasha Adamakinwa, a female football coach. I wish I could say I planned this to coincide with FIFA Women’s World Cup but it really was fortuitous. I interviewed her a couple of months ago and now seemed to be a good time to publish her story. I hope you enjoy her extraordinary story.

RWW: Tell me a little bit about your early years and education. 
NA: I was born on the 21st of May 1987 in London, England to a Nigerian father and Zambian mother. I grew up in Camden Town, North West London, where I attended St Michaels CoE Primary School and St Marylebone Secondary School for Girls in Baker Street, Central London. I went on to Acland Burghley Sixth Form School to study A Levels in Psychology, Sociology, Media Studies and Business Studies.

Thereafter, I completed a degree in Psychology with Health Studies at the University of East London. Post graduation, I worked for a year coaching sports in primary and secondary schools before being offered a scholarship to study and play football in America at Ohio Valley University. I accepted the offer and took the opportunity to study another degree in Sports Management for two years before returning to the UK.

RWW: What do you do now?
NA: I currently work as a graduate learning support assistant at a secondary and sixth form school in Enfield and I am looking to complete my Physical Education teaching status next year. As well as playing football, I am also a qualified FA UEFA B football coach.

RWW: How long have you been coaching football?
NA: I have been coaching for 13 years now. For the first 3 years I coached without any qualifications, and taught myself. When I was 17, I undertook my level one coaching badge and I obtained my certificate in January 2005. I progressed to the level two coaching badge, which I got in August 2007. (I did my level 2 with Marlon King, the professional football player, who currently plays for Middlesborough FC) and on both occasions I was the only female on the course. I got funded and chosen by the London Borough of Camden to do my badges. A group of us were chosen because of our achievements in coaching in the borough. I completed my level 3 (UEFA B) last year and have been able to get some sponsorship through Black and Asian community COACH bursary to do my Youth Modules 1 and 2. As the years go on, I will be looking to carry on getting my badges; my Youth Module 3; level 4 ‘UEFA A’ licence and Pro licence so that I am able to coach at the highest level of both mens and womens game.

RWW: That’s amazing! What’s your earliest recollection of playing football?
NA: It must be playing football with my cousins at the age of six or seven. I used to spend holidays with the, and they always involved me in football games. We used to mix teams and simple play games.  I started playing football as a sport, at the age of eight. Football has always been my main passion as I grew up. I always played, but never joined a proper team until I was 17 years old.

RWW: I read in you bio that you played for Tottenham. How did that come about?
NA: My first official football club was Hendon women’s football team. I stayed with this club for 3 years and later went for a trial with some friends for Tottenham.  I played for Tottenham Hotspurs ladies and alternated between teams, playing for the first as well as reserves team squad. I was also the top scorer for the reserves and 3rd place for the first team. I stayed there for 2 years and then joined Mauritius Sports Association (MSA) and AFC Wimbledon. I also had the opportunity to play whilst I was in the States for at Ohio Valley University Football team. After coming back from the states I had the opportunity to represent my county and play at the national Wembley 5’s 5aside finals and captain it as well.

RWW: What fuels your interest?
NA: The excitement and buzz of scoring and winning and being surrounded by people that also love the game as much as you do.

RWW: What is the most common misconception about women and football?
NA: The main misconceptions about women and football are that women can’t and shouldn’t play football and the assumption that all women who play football are gay. Neither of these are accurate but you still often hear people saying them.

RWW: What prejudices, if any, have you faced?
NA: Being black and a woman are both challenges that I overcome every day. Being the only female manager/coach in the league, I have dealt with coaches making sexist comments or having chauvinistic attitudes towards me and looking down on my abilities as a coach. I haven’t experienced any prejudice because of the colour of my skin. However I have faced difficulty in job opportunities, having the sense or feeling that I did not get a job because of unfair judgement or bias.

RWW: You aren’t only a woman but a woman of colour. Do you feel like you have opened doors for younger women like you?
NA:
Definitely! I feel like I am a role model not only to black women but black boys. In the sense that I manage and coach a boys team and give people courage to pursue their dreams despite any potential barriers they may face.

RWW: Do you feel any pressure as a result of that?
NA:
Yes because I feel I have to keep on going and prove them wrong. Loads of coaches are watching and I sometimes feel like I have to achieve twice as much to get the same recognition as other coaches.

RWW: How did you go from playing to coaching?
NA: With playing, especially at a higher level, I hated the pressure placed on me to score the winning goal, particularly in cup finals. Whereas in coaching, I enjoy the success I get from getting results and seeing rapid changes in players. My passion and motivation for coaching football has always been a desire of mine. I like how coaching has a positive impact on a player’s learning and development and helps to shape their futures by inspiring them to achieve. I have always found helping players both highly fulfilling and satisfying, especially when it has a direct impact on boosting their confidence and motivating them to achieve their goals and fulfil their potential. No pun intended.

RWW: So what team do you coach?
NA: I coach and manage a boys football team known as Isledon Wolves FC. I joined the club in 2006, when I was 19 years old. I was the only young female coach at the club. I became the first young woman at the age of 21 to win the League B Cup and Community Cups in my second season with them. The boys I coach now are under 14s and are top of the table. In addition to that, I am an Assistant Coach for under 17s for Millwall Lionesses Centre of Excellence.

RWW: How do the boys take to you being a female coach?
NA:
Surprisingly I haven’t faced many challenges as a female coach. Coaching boys is something I’ve always done and so it has not really been a problem. Sometimes I have had one or two problems with attitudes as they get older, which is natural, but I am able to sort these out quickly.

RWW: Which do you prefer, coaching or playing?
NA:
I prefer coaching, it is more rewarding. It is fulfilling to observe a player overcome barriers to learning and make significant progress towards their dreams and aspirations. I also enjoy turning a losing team into a winning team. I hated it as a striker – the pressure. Everyone looking and expecting you score the winning goal. The pressure took the fun out of it for me at times and the pre season fitness. 🙂 I still play for fun. I would like to return to playing soon but I don’t think I would want to play at a high level again.

RWW: Who are the footballers you admire?
NA: I admire a handful of footballers, mainly players that have a passion, drive, and determination: Wayne Rooney, Juan Mata, and Lionel Messi.

RWW: What’s you proudest moment?
NA: Being the first woman and youngest football coach to win the league in my county. As well as managing three boys teams and becoming league champions with all teams.

My achievements to date:

As Head Boys Football Coach are:

  • 2008/09 Under 13- League B Champions and Community cup winners
  • 2008/09 and 2013/14- Club Head Coach of the Year Award
  • 2013/14 Under 13- League B Champions, League A Runners up, Division 4 Champions, League Cup runners up and Community cup winner
  • 2014/15 Under 14- League A Champions (find out 17th April), Division 2 Champions, and 2 Community Cup winners

As Football Player:

  • 2005/06 Manager’s Player of the Year

RWW: What’s your dream?
NA:
To be the first female coach in the premier League/Championship and or to become a head football coach at the highest possible level. ( you heard it on RWW first folks 😉 )

RWW: Who inspires you?
NA:
Maya Angelou inspired me with her ‘I can make it ‘attitude because she spoke so much about confidence and being a woman – being confident in yourself and confident in your heritage. She did not just write and speak her wisdom and words, but it is about how she lived her life that inspired me the most. She was a fighter for equal opportunities, tolerance and peace.

Thank you Natasha

You can follow Natasha on Twitter @Twin_tash or LinkedIn: Natasha Ademakinwa. To learn more about her visit http://natasha-ademakinwa.wix.com/portfolio.

Good Times + Bad Times = Life

In the early hours of today, unfortunately, there was a stabbing on East Road in Cambridge, which resulted in the police closing the road. This was my route to my kid’s school and work. I will now be listening to traffic news before I leave home.

I left home slightly late, but with still enough time, to find our usual route closed and every other route jam packed as a result of it. Cambridge roads are like the human nervous system. One blockage, affects the whole body. Total grid-lock.

A journey that usually takes 20 minutes sometimes less, took 45 minutes today with the result that my kids were 40 minutes late for school and of course, I was late for work.

When I dropped them off, I had to take a moment to compose myself. It’s so frustrating when you do everything you possibly can and conditions beyond your control take charge. Very frustrating. So I’m sitting there asking myself why I didn’t take another route? Why didn’t I listen to traffic news? Even why didn’t I sense this? I know, right?

You see, I’m a recovering perfectionist and everything is supposed to work out perfectly if I put in the right effort. News flash to self, that’s not life!

Good Times + Bad Times = Life

My day wasn’t ruined because I had done something wrong or not done something right. It was just starting off on a bad note. That’s life. And sometimes, life just sucks. End of.

There will always be times when you just have to take a humongous breath and in my case, pray, that my day gets better. After all, in the words of Scarlett O’Hara, “tomorrow is another day”.

Lyric of The Day

Woke up this morning with this song in my head. Not quite sure any human being can do this so this is my Ode to God today.

You are the flame in my heart
You light my way in the dark
You are the ultimate star

You lift me from up above
Your unconditional love
Takes me to paradise

I belong to you
And you
You belong to me too

-Lenny Kravitz

Mean Mummy

My daughter is six and she doesn’t understand sarcasm yet. Oh the fun I have with her. It’s hilarious. 😂😂😂

Today she asks, “mummy, is my birthday on the 14th of September?”

I respond, “no, it’s the 25th of December.”

“When is your birthday?”, I ask.

“25th of December” she responds.

I laugh and she says, “but that’s what you said mummy”.

Ahhhhhh. To be so innocent.

Mwah mwah mwah.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Lost In The Woods

“Look at the path ahead of you”, a voice directed. “You can’t always see where you are going and that’s how life is”.

As I come to the end of the path, I still couldn’t see what was around the corner. I keep walking and I see a bit more but then, there’s another corner.

I tried to follow the map but kept getting confused as to the best way forward. I knew I could always find my way back but moving forward was a little tricky.

Although the likelihood of getting lost was a possibility, I forged ahead.

I began to recognise the parameters of the estate and it’s boundaries soon became my guide. I knew that as long as I stayed within it, I would be fine.

Photo By James Forbes